Now don’t get me wrong, this person is not<\/strong><\/em> ignorant (I happen to think they’re quite brilliant most of the time<\/em>) however it just goes to show you that not all pain is visible.\u00a0 Not everyone who is dealing with something appears to be a total train wreck.<\/p>\n \n Oops, wrong train wreck!<\/p><\/div>\n That and I’m really good<\/strong><\/span> at faking it. <\/em>(I wonder if any of my exes will see this heh)<\/p>\n Anyway…<\/p>\n Moving along <\/em><\/p>\n They just proved a very valuable point.\u00a0 Just because someone seems well adjusted, well put together and happy doesn’t mean that they are.\u00a0 I know people with eating disorders, bio-polar disorder, addictions and scores of other problems that are more “mental” as opposed to physical to a degree and you wouldn’t know it.\u00a0 The pain no one sees is the pain that hurts the most.<\/p>\n For example, I have well over a 100 hours of tattoo work on my body with approximately 35% coverage.\u00a0 Had you not known this about me and happened to catch me on a day that I was wearing my usual attire of jeans\/hoodie\/t-shirt you wouldn’t see any of them.\u00a0 Not a one.\u00a0 So my internal pain, very much like my tattoos is very well hidden unless I choose to show it to you.<\/p>\n That being said, addictions, self injury, eating disorders, depression are usually stemmed from some other psychological form.\u00a0 Meaning that giving someone who’s just confessed to being anorexic a huge plate of pasta and cake isn’t going to “fix” them.<\/p>\n I’m fortunate in the sense that my depression is (hopefully) only temporary based on several soul sucking life factors and for the most part I find respite from it in several ways.\u00a0 Art being one of them.\u00a0 One thing I love to do is create.\u00a0 There’s something magical about taking random materials and watching something come to life with your own two hands, there really is.\u00a0 Even if you have no artistic talents what so ever.<\/p>\n So the next time you stumble across someone whom you think is happy and well adjusted and confesses to whatever ails them, be there for them.\u00a0 Please don’t try to fix people like us.\u00a0 Much like feeding an anorexic food, trying to make someone happy by cheering them up if they’re depressed, or flushing their drugs down the toilet, there’s no<\/strong><\/span> quick fix.\u00a0 It’s not so much that we can’t be saved (because everyone is worth saving IMHO) sometimes we just need someone to be there.\u00a0 Hugs are extra nice too.\u00a0 There’s also something pretty magical when you come to the realization that people care about you and they want you to be OK and they’re willing to be there for you and offer support in a way that no one else can sans pity<\/em>.\u00a0 If you let them.<\/em> Because sometimes you can’t make it on your own.\u00a0 That’s OK, because no one should have to.<\/p>\n This song pretty much sums up a lot of things for me.\u00a0 The official video (which is awesome btw)\u00a0 is here<\/a><\/p>\n
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