Andrew Wilmer

It’s with a heavy heart that I post this.

I knew Andrew eons ago when I was in elementary school.  Then high school followed for the brief time I spent at St. Benedict’s.  I wish I had memories to share however 1993 was a long time ago and well let’s just say all my memories are hazy from high school shall we? 😉

Regardless, I do recall you as being a really nice, super chill guy!  Thank you for not being a major douche when I was a niner 🙂

My heart is heavy with sadness for the one’s you left behind.  It’s painfully obvious to me how much you were loved.  I truly hope that there is life after death so that you can see just how much everyone loves you and misses you so much.  We have a lot of mutual friends, yet it’s been years since our paths have crossed.

Wherever you happen to be, I hope that you have located the peace that you simply couldn’t obtain here on earth.

“Death leaves a heartache No one can heal; Love leaves a memory No one can steal.”

Update: January 27th 2011

“Passed away on Tuesday, January 25, 2011 in Cambridge at 36 years of age. Beloved son of Rick (Barb) and Debbie Ayotte (Mick MacDonald), dear brother of Jennifer and Jillian, father of Carson Baglole and stepfather of Isabella Baglole. A service of remembrance will be held at the Lounsbury Funeral Home, Cambridge on Saturday, January 29th. 2011 “

A Story to Tell

This was posted in the IMAlive group that’s for the volunteer’s of this new and incredibly exciting project!  I wanted to share it with you all:

Twenty years ago, I drove a cab for a living. It was a cowboy’s life, a life for someone who wanted no boss. What I didn’t realize was that it was also a ministry.

Because I drove the night shift, my cab became a moving confessional. Passengers climbed in, sat behind me in total anonymity, and told me about their lives. I encountered people whose lives amazed me, ennobled me, made me laugh and weep.

But none touched me more than a woman I picked up late one August night.

I was responding to a call from a small brick fourplex in a quiet part of town. I assumed I was being sent to pick up some partiers, or someone who had just had a fight with a lover, or a worker heading to an early shift at some factory for the industrial part of town.

When I arrived at 2:30 a.m., the building was dark except for a single light in a ground level window. Under these circumstances, many drivers would just honk once or twice, wait a minute, then drive away. But I had seen too many impoverished people who depend on taxis as their only means of transportation. Unless a situation smelled of danger, I always went to the door. This passenger might be someone who needs my assistance, I reasoned to myself. So I walked to the door and knocked.

“Just a minute,” answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor. After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 80s stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like someone out of a 1940s movie.

By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets. There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled it photos and glassware.

“Would you like to carry my bag out to the car?” she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman. She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the cur. She kept thanking me for my kindness.

“It’s nothing,” I told her. “I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated.”

“Oh, you’re such a good boy,” she said.

When we got in the cab, she gave me an address, then asked, “Could you drive through downtown?”

“It’s not the shortest way,” I answered quickly.

“Oh, I don’t mind,” she said. “I’m in no hurry. I’m on my way to hospice.”

I looked in the rearview mirror. Her eyes were glistening.

“I don’t have any family left,” she continued. “The doctor says I don’t have very long.”

I quietly reached over and shut off the meter. “What route would you like to me take?” I asked.

For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator. We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had once lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up to the front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl. Sometimes she’d ask me to slow down in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, “I’m tired. Let’s go now.”

We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico. Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her.

I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.

“How much do I owe you?” she asked, reaching into her purse.

“Nothing,” I said.

“You have to make a living,” she said.

“There are other passengers,” I responded.

Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held on to me tightly.

“You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,” she said. “Thanks you.”

I squeezed her hand, then walked into the dim morning light. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of a closing life.

I didn’t pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly, lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?

On a quick review, I don’t think that I have done anything more important in my life. We’re conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments catch us unaware – beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

People may not remember exactly what you did, or what you said, but they will always remember how they made your feel.

-Source Unknown

Last post for 2010!

It’s hard to believe that so much time has passed and rather quickly at that!
We’re quietly going about things for the moment. Slowly, but surely getting the word out there that we exist but more importantly spreading the message of hope, because after all that’s what were all about!

Earlier, NAOYP partook in helping someone having a brighter Christmas.

Today I took a peek over at Stefanie’s blog and here’s proof that one person truly can make a difference in the lives of others.

While we weren’t able to donate much, it’s quality not quantity that counts.  Knowing that so many people pitched in to help a family of total strangers has left me touched and my heart a lot lighter these days.

Wishing you all the best for a wonderful 2011 from (I’m) Not Afraid Of Your Pain.

It’s been a while…

However don’t you dare think that we have forgotten 🙂

I (Stephanie) have been exceptionally busy doing stuff, more on that later!  Because there are people in this world who need help now more then ever, especially around this time of year!  I was reading a post over on Tanis the redneck mommy’s facebook page (you should read her blog, it’s nothing short of awesome!) which led me to baby on bored’s latest blog posting.  I find that this time of year people are generally more generous (although we should be ALL year round not just around the holidays) and I was touched by what this woman was doing for this family.

When you have almost or nothing at all, the smallest things can have the largest amount of impact!  In keeping with Jason’s dedication to help others (he always donated to charities when he could, especially those helping children) and with my job in a daycare, this really touched me.  Please head on over to her blog (link posted above) to read this very touching story of one woman who is aiming to make someone’s Christmas a little brighter.

The purpose behind NAYOP is to help others.  Even if it’s not directly related to our mission.  That being said I’m making a donation on behalf of NAOYP in Jason’s honour because I think that he would have liked that very much.

One thing that never, ever dissapoints is hope.  Hold onto it forever.

Happy holidays everyone from the Jason Cartwright Memorial Foundation

We’re standing behind FCKH8 and you should too!

In light of all the tragic deaths surrounding bullying, hatred towards gays we should all say FUCK HATE!